FORGET PARIS

Billy Crystal's Forget Paris is a wonderful film filled with romantic moments that ring trues and with great big laughs. The story revolves about Mickey and Ellen relationship, which apparently narrated by Mickey's friends in a get together dinner. Mickey, a popular NBA basketball referee, known as the skillful and fearless one. When his father dies, Mickey accompanies the body to France, as the father's last wish was to buried with his Army friends that he met after the Second World War. Eventually, he lost his father's body in the airport and Ellen came about to take in charge of the whole situation. From various meetings both became friends and after an one day outing, both of them felt in love with each other. After a short period of separation, as Mickey lives in States and Ellen in France, both of them met again and decided to get married. Their honeymoon time doesn't last long as they had trouble with personal space as their profession tend to be a barrier in their love life.   After several conflicts, both of them agree to respect on each other personal interest and space and that leads to the success of their relationship in the end.

This movie has thought us about how one should respect their partner's personal interest and at the same time not letting go of ones interest. Having said that, spending time independently of each other is a healthy way to make your relationship grow. Everyone needs a little personal space, and it's a huge sign of respect towards your partner when you encourage and support their time alone. Sometimes we might have tons of work and eventually we might bring it back home and end up spending to much time on it. In that case, agree to set certain amount of time on the workloads each week. In exchange, we should offer our partner the same amount of time to do either something on their own or together.

People are happiest in relationships where the give and take are about equal. If one person is getting too little from the relationship, then not only are they going to be unhappy with this but also the person who is getting the lion's share may also feel rather guilty about this imbalance. In that case, looking into the Equity theory of relationships, it proposes that partners in a relationship who feel that they are putting in more efforts to keep it going will experience emotional distress and anger. This theory also proposes that partners who feel they are getting more than their share of rewards in a relationship will also experience emotional distress in the form of guilt. Having said that, equity is calculated by evaluating the contribution made by each partner to the relationship and the benefits received within the said relation. The theory also states that partners do not have to make equal contribution or receive equal benefits as long as the ratio between the contributions and benefits is similar. this love and relationship theory is one of the best ways to understand how to make a relationship work.

Marriages don't work when one partner is happy and the other is miserable. Marriages is about both people being equally miserable. (Andy)